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Lifestyle / July 27, 2020

Processing Hurt: Hurt, Hurts

Are you covering your emotional wounds with endless bandages because it hurts too much to deal with? It’s almost easier to “live with it” or pretend like it never existed…

“You’re not designed to walk around staying stuck in hurt. You’re actually created to process hurt. We’re all designed and equipped to go through our grief and experience uncomfortable feelings so that we can heal and rise above our pain.”-Dr.Henry Cloud.

The victim mentality keeps many people stuck in their pain, and why do they get stuck?

We get stuck because we want other people to change. But the truth is, we cannot make others change. 

What we can do is: process our own pain and hurt, then free ourselves from it. 

To process a hurt…you have to have one. We must learn to possess it & own it. 

Don’t shut it down or move against it. Our attempts to avoid, numb and escape our pain actually creates more pain. 

When you don’t take the time to process pain in the present, it’ll find a way to sneak back into your future.

Own your pain, allow it to be expressed. It can be scary to face it but do know that it is a process that’s needed.

Let it motivate you to change in attitude, decision and action. That way- you can limit the effect of the pain. 

It’s true. Hurt, hurts even more when we don’t deal with it! I encourage you today to own and process your pain. 

Processing hurt through art

Helpful tips:

1) Going through an appropriate blaming stage (sometimes we have every reason to feel hurt, abandoned, betrayed)

2) Acknowledge your side (recognizing your weakness and fault in the matter)

3) Take responsibility (empowering yourself to be responsible in dealing with the mess left in you) 

4) Make the choice and forgive (making helpful changes towards feelings, attitudes and behaviours to protect yourself)