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Lifestyle / September 20, 2020

Let’s Talk About Boundary…

Do you ever feel like “I just can’t control how others make me feel.”? 

Boundaries are meant to protect yourself and realizing YOU HAVE LIMITS! We need to be clear in knowing what we own and what we do not own. Healthy boundaries when set properly leads to responsibility and love. 

Ownership is crucial in creating boundaries. Sometimes It’s hard to set boundaries because we have a hard time admitting that our own desires, attitudes and behaviours led to our choices. We disown what is ours and try to own what belongs to others, and fail to understand that everyone is born with: freedom of choice. 

The two main aspects we are all in charge of are: our own body and feelings. “We should always be sensitive towards other people’s feelings, but we should never take responsibility for HOW they feel.”-Dr. Henry Cloud. 

“Oftentimes, we want the people we love to be able to make their own choices, but many of those choices are going to limit us in some ways. And when they do, we do not naturally want to deal with those limitations responsibly, we would rather blame.” – Dr. Henry Cloud 

It is crucial to learn how to shift from blaming to taking ownership of our own choices and feelings. It is the first step in realizing the need to set boundaries in life! It frees others to feel loved when they activate their freedom of choice, and it frees us from getting stuck in blaming others for how we feel. 

 

May we gain new perspective today, as we begin to take ownership over our feelings & bodies.

Happy blameless day!